HAPPY
MOTHER'S
DAY
She was a girl I knew
She looked a lot like you
I knew her way back when
Cause we were younger then than now....
I don't recognize your face or that look
the look of sadness in your eyes when you say:
Happy Mother's Day
Merry Christmas
Happy Birthday
I wish you all the best
And I thank you for these memories.
He was a guy I knew
Looked like my brother too
I never tried to phone
Now all that's left is bones...
and I ... I don't recognize your face or that look
the look of sadness in your eyes when you say:
Happy Mother's Day
Merry Christmas
Happy Birthday
I wish you all the best
And I thank you for these memories.
But I forgot the rest of your names anyway.....
Happy Mother's Day
Happy Mother's Day
Everyday I sit
I don't remember shit
They say that's why I'm here
They covered all the mirrors....
and I ...I don't recognize your face or that look
that look of sadness in your eyes when you say:
Happy Mother's Day
Merry Christmas
Happy Birthday
I wish you all the best
And I thank you for these memories.
But I forgot your names anyway.....
Dennis Mills/The Judys
Some context for the song:
My mother died two years ago, after living with dementia/Alzheimer's for 9 years.
She was followed the next year by my eldest brother, who had vascular dementia,
the result of many small strokes.
Strange, but he died on exactly the same day as my mother.
Even stranger, is that I don't even remember the exact day, (although I know it is the end of July.)
The perspective in the song is of me in the future trying to remember who these people are that come to visit me. I see my family members who went before. I imagine myself looking perhaps at my sister, and seeing my mother.
I imagine myself looking at friends or brothers, and having a vague memory of my older brother, who may have looked a bit like them. He looked a bit like me.
I
imagine myself sitting in a room, just waiting for someone to come and say hello.
I imagine these visitors saying Happy Mother's Day, like we would say to my dear mother, or Merry Christmas or Happy Birthday, which are the times people most likely visit.
The song is intensely personal. It is fueled with great regret, shame, anger, and sadness. Many friends have told me it makes them cry. It makes me cry, too.
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